Marriage Is No Longer The Norm

The new census 2010 figures are out, and for the first time since they began tabulating family data in 1940, there are more un-wed couples in the USA than married couples.

Households with husband-wife couples has now fallen below 50 percent. 48 percent to be exact. Compare that to the 1950 census, 78 percent of all households in America were just like Leave It To Beaver, (ahem). But maybe that’s the point. Times have changed and people are living much more authentic truths than the 50’s. The social stigma of being together and not wearing a ring is gone (well maybe not in some religious circles, but you get my point.) There are no more scarlet letters.

“It is possible that this also reflects an increase in the average age at which couples first marry. According to a study from the Pew Research Center, the average age for men is 28.7 years and for women, it’s 26.5. Compare that to 1960, when that age for both men and women was early 20s”

The results also said that same-sex partner homes skyrocketed to 80 percent in the past decade. “They make up less than one percent of all households, but in 2010, nearly 650,000 households identified themselves as same-sex partner homes.” Brad and Angelina are engaged now, but they often said they wouldn’t get married until it was legal for same sex partnerships too. I know many people who feel this way as well.

50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri. There is even an expo for divorce now:

Beginning at $75 a person, New Yorkers got the opportunity to attend “Start Over Smart: A Modern Divorce Expo” this past weekend. There, more than 100 vendors offered tips on all the nasty bits on what one can expect to go through during a divorce. Life coaches, financial planners, family counselors and even hairstylists were all part of exhibitions to help new divorcees field the brave, new life of singledom.”

The Inner Balance™ wave is in the self actualization tier of Maslow’s Hierarchy. It’s about finding a deeper meaning, and maybe these days, couples don’t feel like marriage offers anything they don’t already have in their partnership. Conversely, when it comes to divorce, perhaps people are now more willing to admit when something can’t be fixed, and want move on with their lives. The Human Truth™ of this wave is: “Without meaning, what’s the point?”™  That’s a question not to be taken lightly when it comes to something as important as who we share our heart, soul and life with.

sally

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